Finding Your Niche in Motherhood
Planning in motherhood is so important, yet I see so many mothers who appear to take planning too far and ignore the motherly instincts that seem to naturally come with maternity.
Many speak of the instincts that come with motherhood. Whether it is instincts or simply knowledge from learning, mothers have a way of knowing exactly whats right for their children. Ignoring these instincts can cause you to miss out on some of the wonderful insights you may have had if you listened to your "motherly instincts".
So how do you get a feel for these instincts? It seems as though everyone is different.
An internet reader recently voiced the frustrations she faced while finding her motherly niche...
"My mom is very excited about my pregnancy. I love that she's taking an interest — but I already feel like a failed parent because I can't relate to some of the things she says having a baby will make me feel and do. How can I make her understand that I need her to support my own approach to motherhood, instead of trying to show me how I should feel and act?"
Finding your own approach can be hard and of course every mother in the world has their own opinion on how they think you should do things; and they offer it to you freely. This isnt always a bad thing and can play to your advantage. Just listen freely and remind yourself that they are just trying to help and that experience, in many situations, can be of great help.
In the end, finding your motherly or maternal niche may take time, but your family is bound to benefit if you learn everything you can, then follow your instincts.
NOTE: for additional help and advice, visit the chattermoms community forums, blogs, articles and other motherly resources they offer. I have always found this community to be nothing but helpful and friendly.
Also, be sure to check back on my motherly blog for further stories and articles. Also give me your comments, I love to hear good feedback.
