My post was getting long, so I didn't want to put this following in the original post, here is my comment on one of the shows listed above... I for one, am very picky about episodes of Caillou now, because in one episode the mom and dad didn't have time for Caillou and his sister because they were late for work one day. Caillou was acting out a bit because he wasn't getting much attention. His parents basically told him to get over it, scolded him, and told him he was going to day care and he should just accept it and like it. Personally, I disagree with this. I have a degree in psychology and I know that this is the wrong way to handle it. Children naturally need to feel secure. That is why so many experts suggest having a stay at home parent. Telling a child that their feelings are wrong is confusing and cause them to feel insecure. If both parents do need to work, for financial reasons, then they should find a relative, who doesn't have a billion other kids to worry about, to watch their children. The kids need to feel like they are part of a home, somewhere safe, not animals being herded here and there in a day care center. Nor should they be in a home with children from several different families. This is not a safe feeling, they will feel like they don't belong. As children grow older and mature, they will be able to turn to themselves for that feeling of security. Don't tell a child to get over it and accept it, while you run off for self fulfillment. Don't have children if you are not willing to make the sacrafices for what's best for them.
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